A positive body image is reliant on great self-esteem, a positive attitude and emotional resilience.
How you perceive yourself when looking in the mirror, and what you think others think of you, have a directly impact on how you feel about your body.
And negative influences – comments from others and body image stereotypes portrayed in the media – make it worse. And you start to feel insecure, self consciousness, depressed and miserable.
Whether you believe to be true about your own body, and what you came to believe is a perfect body you can be changed quite easily, starting with a decision.
When you finally decided it’s time to do something about it and want to create a positive body image, you’re going to come up against:
And to deal with these three key areas you’re going to need: a change in attitude, greater self-esteem, and emotional resilience.
Developing a positive body image
Self-esteem stems from valuing yourself, and receiving appreciation from others, when they enjoy your company and contributions.
Which means you start to rely too much on the way you look as you continually want more of this validation, because the way people perceive and judge you at first, unfortunately is through your appearance.
New people coming into your life instantly form an opinion of you in their minds, which you don’t know for sure what it is, so you start a self talk journey and criticize and judge yourself, without even knowing what they really think.
This is a reality that will not go away and you need to build emotional resilience to withstand feelings and emotions, and to drop the need for perfection. Emotional resilience will eventually come from being able to maintain a healthy connection to your feelings, thoughts and desires while engaging with others.
Being highly critical or judgmental about yourself, will increase the likelihood that you will develop a negative attitude about yourself, instead of just let it be and love yourself. So it’s vital to change your attitude about how you treat yourself and your thoughts to make way creating a new you.
How to build self-esteem and emotional resilience
It’s all about making yourself feel good
When you feel good about yourself and who you are, you carry yourself with a sense of confidence, self-acceptance, and openness that makes you beautiful regardless of how you appearance.
To form a habit of making yourself feel good do the following:
Appreciate all that your body can do and still will do in future – Change your attitude towards it and start to belief and realise that your body is carrying you closer to your dreams every day. Celebrate all the amazing things your body does for you, the recharging walks through nature, the dancing in the rain, the laughing with friends, the wonder of creation no matter in what form it came.
Jot down a top-ten list of things you really like about yourself – Anything you can think of, it doesn’t need to be related to your body, but it is still about you, your personality, your talents, your skills, all of which in part is part of your body. Read it every day until you don’t have to anymore.
Explore clothing that helps us you feeling comfortable and beautiful. Find clothing that suits who you are, and if you cand find it in store, get a tailor and design clothing yourself. Clothing should be tailored to suit your body type, not you fit into a certain clothing design. Commercialised clothing sizes only make you feel miserable, so start your own range.
Surround yourself with positive healthy, accepting people – It is easier to feel good about yourself and your body when you are around others who are supportive and who recognize the importance of liking yourself just as you naturally are.
Become critical of the social and media messages you allow into your life – Pay attention to images, slogans, or attitudes that make you feel bad about yourself or your body. Protest these messages by writing counter arguments against it to reframe it in your mind in a more positive way that suit you.
Do something nice for yourself every week – Something that lets your body know you appreciate it, like a massage, a bubble bath, long naps, peaceful places outside to relax, and only choose healthy beauty products to use onto your body.
Do good and serve others – Use the time and energy that you might have spent worrying about food, calories, and your weight to do something to help others. Sometimes reaching out to other people can help you feel better about yourself and can make a positive change in our world
The 5 minute mirror exercise
Stand in front of the mirror. Look at yourself thoroughly, choose not to focus on specific body parts and see yourself as others see you – as a whole person. Look at yourself for a long time, and say I love you. Then start to speak only positive things about yourself, your hair, all the good things on your list. Learn positive affirmations to say to yourself while you still look into your eyes.
If there’s anything bothering you so much about yourself you can’t look at yourself in the mirror, like if you feel you are too fat, then you owe it to yourself to do something about it right away. Not complaining, not moaning, simply derive a clear action plan, research how to achieve what you want to change it and get on with it.
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