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Your Love Quotient – Discover What Gandhi Wanted You To Know

Your Love Quotient can help you realize just how amazing, resilient and deeply profound human beings can be….

 

Love for humanity and all of creation is a concept most speak about, but very few actually know how to really incorporate or use it in their daily lives.

 

Gandhi stressed that humans should follow a pathway to love with mutual respect for each-other’s feelings, and free from egotism, prejudice and selfishness.

 

But war, conflict, poverty, famine, hatred, racisim, sexisim, and discrimination are what you see and hear about everywhere.

 

Is this the love which the elders like Gandhi and all the various divinities teach us?

 

The moral dilemma of love, happiness and suffering…

 

Sam Harris said in a recent podcast, “Eliminating suffering is more urgent than creating happiness.”

 

Harris often addresses questions about values, meaning, morality, life’s larger purpose and about the well-being of conscious creatures.

 

According to Harris, values translate into facts easily understood by science in the context of positive and negative social emotions, retributive impulses, the effects of specific laws and social institutions on human relationships, what’s morally good and bad, right and wrong, and the neurophysiology of happiness and suffering.

 

It is the conquest of all human beings; to find happiness. And yet is seems to elude you the more you pursue it. Philosophy teaches that happiness can be understood as the moral goal of life or as an aspect of chance.

 

German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860) explained that the absence of satisfaction (happiness) is suffering, which results in an empty longing. And once satisfied, in return will give rise to a new wish for satisfaction and happiness. It’s a never ending circle.

 

Schopenhauer also expressed that egotistical acts are those guided by self-interest, the desire for pleasure or happiness, whereas only compassion (an ingredient of love) can be a moral act.

 

An eye opener quote from Donald Symons on moral relativism states:

 

“If only one person in the world held down a terrified, struggling, screaming little girl, cut off her genitals with a septic blade, and sewed her back up, leaving only a tiny hole for urine and menstrual flow, the only question would be whether the death penalty would be a sufficiently severe sanction. But when millions of people do this, instead of the enormity being magnified millions-fold, suddenly it becomes ‘culture’ –  and thereby magically becomes less, rather than more horrible.”

 

 

The Love Quotient (LQ) and the ingredients of love


By now, everyone knows if you want to be a smart entrepreneur or leader, you need a high level of emotional quotient (EQ) (emotional intelligence), the ability to control your emotions, express them only after careful and clear thought, and to empathize with others, understanding their emotions, opinions and points of view.

 

But there’s that one ingredient missing says Jack Ma…

 

Alibaba founder, Jack Ma recently said at a Bloomberg Global Business Forum in New York, “If you really want to be respected, you need LQ.”

 

Love is often described as being kind, patient, generous, humane, courteous, unselfish, good tempered, guileless and sincere. All these aspects form the basis of your LQ (love quotient).   

 

Your LQ is the degree to which – or the amount of the love quality you express and live by; the heart and conduit of your soul.

 

Love breeds love – the way to human unity….

 

Mahatma Gandhi advocated for the love for humanity, and against the discrimination of social and cultural classes, color, creed or religion. To him all humans have the right to be loved and be cared for equally.

 

He strongly encouraged people to establish mutual equality by ‘hearts’ – to connect love with wisdom and sound argument.

 

Gandhi stressed that humans should follow a pathway to love with mutual respect for each-other’s feelings, and free from egotism, prejudice and selfishness.

 

According to Gandhi’s teachings, equality and mutual respect for one-another form the basis of love with three important aspects:

 

  • The first aspect of Gandhi’s concept of love is truth – Truth unconditionally pervades in love; therefore, it becomes boundless. Gandhi said, “True love is boundless like the ocean, and rising and swelling within one – spreads itself out and crossing all boundaries and frontiers envelops the whole world.’ – Young India, September 9, 1928.

 

  • The second aspect is connecting humility with service – Gandhi said, “A life of service must be one of humility. He, who would sacrifice his life for others, has hardly time to reserve for himself a place in the sun.”

 

  • The third aspect is peace – For Gandhi nonviolence and truth are two sides of the same coin, and reaching the truth is the ultimate goal of human life. “We shall go from love to love and peace to peace. For, until at least crores from all the corners of the world are covered with that love and peace for which, the whole world is hungering.” – Gandhi.

 

How can love be measured? And by how much should you love?

 

Can love be measured?

 

Unfortunately, because love is an emotion, it can’t be seen or touched, and is experienced and expressed differently by everyone. But love is also an emotion in action. And therefore your actions, no matter how small or big, will have an effect (which cannot be measured off course :-)).

 

A recent article highlighted people giving explanations of what they think love for humanity is. They described it as: when you donate an organ to a stranger; a stranger who picks up your wallet and brings it back to you intact; or when someone gets to the store till and they don’t have enough cash to checkout so you give them the missing amount.


A feeling of pride permeated these stories, a sentiment that said, “I’m part of being human, and I too can do good. In momentary experiences of love of humanity, people always feel motivated to keep on doing good.

 

When you can relate with certain situations and morally identify with humanity, you are more likely to care for others’ well-being. To which degree you want to help, totally depends on you, as a mere small act of kindness can sometimes be enough, just because it could mean far more to the receiver than what you would ever know.

 

People who frequently experience love of humanity have a stronger sense of being part of it, feeling capable of giving and receiving the most incredible, amazing and wonderful kindness and love.

 

How to increase your Love Quotient

 

Travel and take note of global issues

Even if you can’t afford to travel the world, you can learn about global issues and what contribution you can make to relieve some pain. Volunteer for community work or relief organizations. Aim to build friendships with people whose backgrounds are different from your own.

 

Ask people about themselves, genuinely show interest and offer ways you can help

People love talking about what they care about, what motivates them and what makes them happy. They don’t generally talk about their heartaches and concerns though as they need to trust you first. Build trust, let them hare their pain and offer ways in which you can help.


Make others happy

Provide the space for people to open up about their happy moments as this will inspire them even further. It will also help you to see the lighter, brighter and happier side of the people in your life. Practice random acts of kindness and pay it forward.

 

Focus on the good stories

The stories of great kindness and virtuous actions. Selectively follow social media network friends and fans who deliberately choose to share good news rather than bad and who regularly share inspiring things.

 

Help the less fortunate

Look at people who are less fortunate than you, and yet they manage to meet each day with passion and positivity, believing that being alive is its own reward. You can help them, but they can just as much help you. Consider volunteering at a hospice, a hospital for children with terminal diseases, or giving a technology class to the elderly who may struggle to communicate with their families just because they don’t understand new age devices.

 

Encourage faith

Faith in humanity isn’t predicated on what you get back; it’s about knowing that you’re making life a little better, a little easier and a little more livable for everyone you connect with. Try to see the world in a more trusting, less demanding way. Have faith that which you give will help, the donations you make will be put to good use, and have faith that life will get better for all.

 

Be the change

Implement Gandhi’s famous line to ‘be the change you wish to see in the world’. When you model the kind of change you want to see – you spark virtuous ripples that will benefit others, thereby continuously improving the world.

 

Be compassionate

It’s compassion that allows you to dig deeper and discover what motivates or compels unkind, ruthless or thoughtless behavior. It is in the seeking to understand better why people behave as they do that you can empathize with them and learn tolerance. Give them the gift of freedom to heal themselves from pain and fear and to become the best they can be.

 

Collaborate and cooperate

Reduce conflict and competition by encouraging and facilitating collaborative ways to get things done. Make room for others, and their opinions, you might learn something 🙂

 

Share your experience and learnings

Help to inspire positive actions and thoughts by sharing your own achievements and celebrations. What can you do right now, today, to pass on the stories that show goodwill, acts of heroism and human virtues?


Celebrate awe-inspiring moments

When people do something incredible, share it. Tell the world about it and learn from that. When you do this you’ll be spreading the power and worthiness of decent, kind and caring actions.

 

Learn to express the purest form of love

Love as a human virtue is based on compassion, affection and kindness which you feel for yourself first. This is a state of being, and has got nothing to do with something or someone outside yourself. This is the purest form of Love. Learn to love yourself and the love for others will shine.

 

Connect love with wisdom

Love is connection. It’s a true sensory and temporal connection with another living being, It blossoms when two or more beings connect over a shared positive emotion. It is then when you see fewer distinctions between you and them or it. Your ability to really see others wholeheartedly springs open.

 

You then feel that sense of oneness and connection, a transcendence that makes you feel part of something far bigger than yourself. When you know this truth, this piece of wisdom – that is when you’ll know that this kind of love (the unconditional love, or divine love, Agape) is eternal, and cannot be be broken.

 


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